in so many ways that its true meaning seems to become foggy.
Some examples: I love this restaurant, Let's make love, I love
my car, etc.
To me the most foggy to understand concerns relationships,
primarily those between men andwomen. I'm a guy and I'll be the
first to admit that guys use the line, prove your love to me, with no
thought or care about actual love. This is a line guys use to make
a girl feel guilty and submit to a sexual relationship simply to satisfy
their selfish desires. If the girl refuses the guy generally gets
mad and will most likely end the relationship and go looking for
someone who will give in to him.
Having played sports and having spent many hours in the locker
room I can honestly say that what most guys talked about was girls
and who would have sex with them, then they would come back
and brag it up so that the next guy was eager to go and try his
luck with the same girl. Girls that would not submit to this type of
date would often get the guys betting on who could be the one to
break her...as a cowboy would break a wild horse. Guys who had
girlfriends were no less participating than the others, even as they
would tell in detail what they and their girlfriends would do.
As I have experienced life I have witnessed over and over that
"sex" outside of marriage is simply the satisfying of selfish, lustful
desires. No guy, not even the worst of them, wants to end up
marrying a girl who has been around. Oh it is okay for them to go
around but when they marry they "want" a girl who has kept her
virtue. (They seldom get it but it is what they would prefer).
Men and women that live together to "test" their relationship
are in the same boat, they do not truly love each other, they may
think they do, but the physical is the dominant part of their relationship
the greatest percentage of them move on before too long.
When I married the greatest gift I could give to my wife was
the gift of not having had sexual relations with anyone else.
The greatest gift my wife gave me was the same. We had saved the
sweetest expressions of love for the person we married and as
we shared the experience of expressing our love to one another
it brought with it a bond to one another, a strong commitment.
I would never want to break that sacred trust we share between us.
In marriage it is the sweetest expression of our feelings for each
other, by it we have brought children into this world who themselves
are symbols of our love for each other. We love our children they
are part of us. With these tender feelings how could we ever do
anything to bring pain into their lives? My children know the love
I have for my wife, they see it in the way I treat her, the way I
communicate with her (There is never the raising of voices in
our home, sure we don't agree on all things but we communicate
in tones that will not hurt or offend one another. This applies to
how we interact with our children also.)
In the Bible Jesus taught his disciples that..."by this shall all
men know that ye are my disciples indeed, that ye have love
for one another." Love need not be confusing. Love NEVER
seeks its own, it is always more concerned with the other,
whether it be a sibling, mother or father, boyfriend or girlfriend,
a friend or just an acquaintance. Love is not a weakness,
it is the greatest power on earth. It can feed the nations, it can
tear down walls, it can heal hostilities, it can bring children into
the world.
Charity is the greatest form of love. Read in the Bible how
Paul describes it. Charity is not giving money from your pocket,
it is having a heart filled with love and compassion for ALL people.
If we had greater charity in the world we would have no poor.
We would have no fear.
Any time someone speaks to you about love and it is to benefit
themselves you can be certain that love is not their motivation.
We also need to love ourselves. When one submits to the sexual
advances of other it tears down the confidence and respect you
have for yourself. You become accustomed to being used. We
need to love ourselves and keep ourselves clean and pure that
when we find that person we want to spend our life with we can
give them the greatest thing that lies within us that truly is ours to give.
Next time your feelings get hurt, someone gets upset at you
or you at them, stop and think of love and then make a bad situation
good, see how you feel......see how it makes them feel.
Until next time.
